I have been following your threads for a bit. I think our ages and H's ages are similar. I will be 30 in exactly two weeks and my H is 32.
My H also spends a lot of time at the bars. You know I dont have any advise to give but I wanted you to know your not alone. Its hard and I dont understand it either. I do admire yur ability to GAL. I have four little ones so it makes it EXTREMELY hard. Right now I am having some resentment feelings because my H does not watch the kids so I have some time for myself. He says one thing although VERY rare, yet his actions say something completely different. He just comes over pretty much everyday to see the kids and me too. Then he goes of to work at night and then the bar after that.
I think that maybe your expectations are a bit high right now. I do the same thing. I see improvement then I get all excited and want more. That is usually about when he withdraws from me a bit again. Then I get hurt and my mind state gets to where I dont care, guess who walks in or calls? It happens to me over and over. Its like he has built in radar and knows the second where I am like "so what."
I also call and text. Shoot I don't get responses on a regular basis though! He will show up instead! Ofcourse I would rather SEE him but I dont understand why he does not just respond regularly, I dont contact him that much. Oh well. He does it to everyone, sisters, brothers, etc. Except he just wont talk to them at all at least he comes over to see me. He always mentions it too. "Did you call me?" Oh and if it was not me but one of the kids he gets real quiet.
As long as they are dealing with their internal emotions its hard to really expect anything from them.
