Bring on the Rain - Part 3

[SueS]

Puppy-

My H has always been like this. We've had similar issues like this. I remember when I was having problems with a car I had. I told him over and over that there was something wrong...Um, I mean, I'm not stupid to know that there's a problem when the heater isn't working in the middle of winter. Anyway, he kept telling me that it was fine....until I broke down on the side of the road. I managed to get my car to a service station. Well, they royally screwed me on parts, cost...etc. He flew off the handle at the station, got angry with me for not taking it to our mechanic & then called the bank the next day to cancel the check I'd written to get it fixed. Who ended up handling the mess that then followed? Not my H. He'll create a huge mess but then will do nothing to fix it. He just walks away. I mean, for goodness sake, we're almost out of this lease, just pay the last month's rent, wait the 21 days for the check and then we're done!

I will say that he has had experience with both gambling and drugs in the past. He did have an addiction to gambling at one time, but rarely does any of that anymore unless we go to the track or Vegas...still very rare. The drugs, that depends on who he keeps company with. He's very easily persuaded. I had a feeling that one of his 20-something friends was into it and possibly gave him something, but it's been a while since I've seen anything. I'm a BIG snoop when I have to be. He hasn't said anything to me since yesterday afternoon about the money. His last comment to me was....Well, it's your money, we took it from your account. I had a supplemental retirement account that I'd set up and he convinced me to take it from there, so that's where I want it to go back to. I mentioned above that I can be a big snoop, right?? I snooped this morning knowing that H had probably deposited that $2600 check from his 401K plan. He had. He deposited $2400 of it and has a little over $5200 in his account now. I think this $5200 balance is already minus the $2000 that he gave his attorney. This angers me a bit. For most of the past 6 years, we have struggled with money. Things were going better financially last year just before I found out about the A. H FINALLY is doing well with his work and within just a few short months has been able to accumulate over $5200. And do I see any benefit from it? NO!! I have worked my A$$ off, staying the stable one, putting in OT, watching H jump from job to job. I get NOTHING.

My H has been short & snippy at times the past few days, but at the same time he's been very....well, how do I put this....showy? Is that a word? He's been making sure he's naked in front of me, flexing his muscles, flirty...etc. Just one way one minute & another way the next. He's been like this before so I guess I'm not surprised.

I set up an appointment for tomorrow for a massage! I'm so excited. It's been years since I've had one. That's something that could become an addiction for me!! I also treated myself to a couple of new shirts and pairs of pants.

Please keep my SIL in your thought and prayers. I believe I mentioned that she and my BIL are going through a D. She called me today to let me know that she retained her attorney yesterday. They had agreed to go to the attorney together so my BIL could submit any information that the attorney needed. My brother has a NASTY temper. My SIL said that before the appointment they had set up an agreement on everything and that going to the attorney was just to get the legal paperwork out of the way. Well, she said that his temper flared at the attorney's office. When the subject of child support came up, he said that he wanted a DNA test because he feels that their D7 is not his. He claims to have gotten a test when she was a baby and she's not his. Trust me folks....she's his. In the car on the way home, he called my SIL an "f'ing whore" and told her that it's now war. My SIL is VERY strong but could still use a lot of prayers.

Thanks! SueS