N_A, Yeah, I think I can be pretty patient about him not wanting to make any sudden moves back to my place. I didnt like his comment about couples that live apart, but he also said he knows that that would be no way to raise a family - so that gives me hope that he understands that is not the best option for us. He also said one time that maybe he would want to move back by or before the winter time comes. I can definetely wait for him to be ready, I just hope it is not a lost cause.
Reading about your H's sitch. and how long he has reconnected before making the move home for good was very nice for me to see that somethings just take time. I have to be patient. I just am not sure yet if my H is trying to have the best of both worlds (freedom and a loving wife).
I agree that the three positive signs have been wonderful to see from my H, and I am grateful for the good things I do see in him too.I unfortunately feel like the biggest problem in our M, is the amount he drinks and goes to bars with out me. It is the source of most of our problems. He knows it and I know it.
He has admitted to me that he is an alcoholic, but at the same time he likes his new lifestyle and shows no interest in changing because he now likes to be social and meet new people.
His parents confronted him about his alcoholism about a month before he came back to me, and he laughed it off. He said, if he wanted to stop drinking then he could. He chooses not to.
I have let him know it is a problem and it causes our R to be very unhealhty, and he said he understands and will try harder to stay away from it. I am not seeing very much progress yet.
Again, I know I need to be patient. I do have faith that some how we will work things out.
Thank You so much for the reply & I will check out my thread. please try and stay in touch, as I feel the info I can learn from your piecing experience would be most valuable. I already feel better looking at your time frame. Thanks, TIPPER
