Hi Shiny,
I have just read your thread (I am new here, just moved over from newcomers). Sounds like you are doing a great job, I really like the idea of thinking three positive things at the end of each day.

I am really not sure about this gender thing and high/low libido. I know a LOT of women (inc myself) who are in the same boat. And I don't think it's just an age thing either. I certainly don't remember us complaining when we were in our 20s and the guys wanted it all the time

I just wonder whether deep down they find it controlling?

Fran

if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs
Erica Jong