Watching the kids while W goes to OM

[lynn97]

First of all, you're not asking her to do ANYTHING right now other than end her affair. Once she agrees to that, a good MC -- and probably an IC for her (and you) as well can help you sort thru the next steps, and we can help too.

In her mind she has ended it. Am I just supposed to say that until you are willing to sever ALL contacts I'm not willing to be you're friend? Her comment is that she did that last time and it hurt for over two years. She want to do it slower this time and her C agrees (I can't win for losing).

She's not ready to work on our M at all right now so MC is out. She's trying to find herself. She's still not sure she even wants to be with me, I think this is her testing me out maybe? "We have to be friends before we can rebuild a marriage".

She is very confused, and while the EA has played into that I really think that a MLC is factoring in here too. Is it the same technique for MLC DBing?

So I guess I am unclear on the next steps besides GAL and LRT.

Lynn