Hi LL...crappy area to have similarities, no? You're right about the no expectations for tonight, we'll see.

Pam, BOTH of us have read the Sex-Starved Marriage and while I saw a LOT that related to our sitch (including the low/high sex drives, ironically gender reversed in our sitch) CJ didn't seem as enthused. I mentioned in a much earlier post that when we first got together, CJ hadn't had much in the way of a sex life, despite his first marriage. He'd had only one other lover besides her before me. Had never even had oral sex!

Needless to say things were very hot for about our first year together. I'm quite sure his testosterone shot up as at age 29 he grew hair on his chest and arms and lost 90% of the hair on his temples. By that I mean it stopped falling out after about our first year. I'm sure he's happy about that, but.....

Pam, (or was it Shay?) I looked for "Hot Monogamy" at Chapters today, alas there were no copies in.

And LL, very true that if we had "typical he-men" who were all over us, but inconsiderate, slobbish, chauvenistic, uncaring, it would probably be something we'd grow to hate!!

I guess what we all want is just a little more passion without losing all the other good stuff!

Today I had a 4 hour lunch with a former student/friend. We laughed a lot, she's a lot like me when it comes to thinking the worst, obsessiveness. Also a brilliant woman.

Then I nabbed 4 novels at the bookstore...I DO have a few days off before the next class and I LOVE to read.

CJ had done two loads of laundry by the time I got home, including.....the sheets!

I sat on our deck and read for a while, then made dinner: nice sauteed Talipia fish. If you've never tried this lovely white Hawiian fish I HIGHLY recommend it. It has a very subtle flavour (somewhat like pickeral/walleye) but a firmer texture. Yum!

During dinner (sorry for the gross-out factor folks) we had the great opportunity to watch one of the surgeries I've had on the medical channel! It's called the "pelvic pouch procedure" for Ulcerative Colitis. It was soooo cool to see what was done to me. No WONDER I was in so much pain afterwards.

They've perfected this procedure now, as when I had it in 1988 it required 3 separate 6-hour surgeries...and it still didn't work for me. Frankly, I wouldn't trade my ileostomy for ANYTHING at this point. Hmmm, I don't think I mentioned that before.

Right now CJ is over at my folks helping my mom set up her VCR. I opted to stay home as I'm taking her out for lunch and shopping tomorrow and just wanted some time to myself. Maybe finish the novel I'm currently reading.

Pam, thanks for the diet link, but I don't want anything to do with a word that starts with "DIE"

I promised myself when I was very ill, being fed with a tuble, dreaming of food every night, that I would never go the restrictive diet route. I KNOW what I need to do and it's simple: Cut back on portions, cut out junk (ahhh Doritos ) and increase my exercise. It's worked before and it will work again!

Ah, what the heck, my book can wait, I'll check on some of you!

Shiny