Nope and never will. Personally, everyone that I have known that has 'walked' away, split up, etc. was NEVER due to an affair. It was simply lack of communication between the two individuals.
There is nor ever will be another OM in my life as long as I'm married to my H- separated or living together. That to me is a personal sign of weakness. People don't want to look in the mirror and face things, so they run away from it, run to things that 'make them happy'. I'm no exception to running away, but it's a boundary that I will never cross, ever. I have too much self respect for that. I love my H dearly, won't have married him if I didn't. I miss him.
And I seriously doubt that my H has or would ever do the same.
I am sure me, along with a lot of others, would like to get that reassurance from thier WA or LB that there isnt or wont be but you cant predict the future. I know my W when she first filed said "there wont be anyone for a long time; you will be my only husband; maybe in five years we would have got a chance to really know each other; etc".
Im sure I have said things to her that at the time i felt, but I feel I am changing everyday to try and be friends although it tears me up to let go of her. But then you read posts on here where ppl say 9 out of 10 walk because of an affair. So I dont know, want to know but not really what the heck is going through her head and what that miracle is going to be to show her our M is worth it no matter what I have done or what she has done.
my stories
M-31 W-28 S7 D2.5 T 8, M 4 W filed 2-14-08 D on hold 3/08 D off hold 5/08 D to be final on/by Nov 08 Anniv 9-4 looked hopeful
