My sister in law the lawyer/family counselor told me that the best thing to do was to say, I am sorry you feel this way and walk away.
If you stay and listen, chances are you will take the bait and get into an argument with your spouse. I finally learned to walk away. Thank God it did not last long, that anger stage.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19