Watching the kids while W goes to OM

[lynn97]

Yea I know I shouldn't have went and talked to her. But wasn't to see her or get all needy/grabby. I wanted to know where she was at with things. I felt like I needed to know this so I could move on with the things I need to do.

I'm not sure she's severed ties. In fact I believe they will still check-in on each other. Maybe in a week or so she's right back to him. If she is then I sever ties again. She may also go back to the counselor who will tell her to stop talking to me and she will. I don't know.

Because of where she is at in her life she's not ready to deal with our marriage at all. I don't know how I can ask her to take steps in this direction when she specifically said she doesn't want to. What do I say "I can't be your friend until you want to date me"? That doesn't make any sense.

She understands that she doesn't think clearly around him. She also understand that it's only hurting her progress too get out of her MLC or whatever this is. If she goes back to him she'll only be hurting herself.

My next approach is to just work on me. I'll talk to her if she calls but it will be mostly listening and no R talk, I'm really tired of talking about that anyway. I don't plan on contacting her today and will only see her briefly on Saturday while I get the kids.

It's her journey and she has to make those decision. I'm not going to stand back at wait. I'm moving on with my life and protecting myself.

Anyway that's where I'm at. Any and all advice is as always appreciated.

Lynn