She isn't ready to work on our relationship yet. Not only is she scared that we will fall back into the same trap, but scared that I won't change my ways too.
Life is full of scary things. There are no guarantees. I CAN guarantee you, however, that without 100% no-contact, your wife will NOT see or act clearly and be able to work on your marital issues with you.
Do you tell her you insist on this? Do you intend to?
Lynn, if you can't play it cool for 48 hours without going all needy/grabby and "needing" to talk to her, you're in for a long, long, and ineffective haul. Even if you do everything RIGHT, you're in for a long haul, with no guarantees, but at least it has the best chance to be effective.
