Hang in there bro, this is where you have to continue being the man she wanted to hug again. I'm not sure from the texting how the conversation was tone wise etc or the subsequent one regarding your W and D11 chatting about the meal, but, I can see similarity in most threads. When the WAS seems to let their mind wander from the hate and they start enjoying themselves and having feelings again, it's as if when they realise, the remind themselves it's not for good. so to combat the positives they have given you, they have to be double nasty to get the control back in the sitch and knock you back to the ground again.
I'm seeing it myself at the moment, W ok all week, then says life is unbearable when we go to MC !!!
GL Bro, hang in there. Do something nice by yourself this weekend to take the mind off and refuel, you've had a rollercoaster of emotions this week
The tone was one of SMARTA$$ plain & simple with her comment of "I can still get to you so easy" real nice thing to say, why not just say I have the strings that control you I am the 'puppettier'. I think you are right, heaven for bid something might feel good & be right oh no quick run back to your shell. I guess what I am trying to say is, don't use me as a gauge to try and figure out if this is something that she still wants.