I will check out your thread as soon as I get a chance.
Originally Posted By: Tipper
My H is showing no signs of wanting to move back in with me. I think he likes the freedom and not having to answer to anyone. He has even made the comment that some R's work best when the two people live apart.
How did you respond to that? How do you feel about living apart? Can you be patient with it for a few months and then reevaluate?
Originally Posted By: Tipper
He is telling me he loves me and is finally wearing his wedding band by choice again. He has taken me out to fancy restaurants, and has bought me a diamond "lifes journey" necklace, and finally apologized for all he has put me through. But other than those three things, he is still distant at times. He is an alcoholic now and often chooses the bars over being with me.
Three definite positives for your H, but the alcoholism is a big negative. Does he acknowledge that drinking is a problem? Does he talk to you about it? My h is a gambling addict and he had to reach a very bad point before he realized that he was an addict, he started going to GA meetings and has been up and down ever since. I think he still struggles with it, but it's still so hard for me to understand the addiction. I know that it's his problem to deal with- I could never make him stop. He has to want to do it himself. That applies to any addiction.
Originally Posted By: Tipper
Also, I was wondering how long you have been piecing for?
Things with us started to get better in the fall. Around Christmas I felt a bit of a turn around and he started spending more time here, but still went back to his apt to sleep. In April he told me he'd like to move back in and he's been living here ever since. He's been slowly moving things back, but he's been here himself physically 100% since April.
Good luck to you. I'll be looking for your thread and will say hi over there too.
