Wife Filed And I Need Help With Busting ASAP

[Scott123]

Thanks, I'm not going to do anything until I get some solid advice
so I can put a plan in action and stick to it. I guess
time is hard to deal with for me. I have three to four months
before the D would be final I believe unless I did not sign the
papers, I think that could delay it a bit... not sure.

One reason for the confusion on my part about moving out
and LRT is because she was so livid about it and demanding
it. My thoughts on it were that by me NOT moving out I am
just making her hate me more. Partly because she keeps
stressing that by me living here it is causing her too
much stress, making her angry etc.

I know I know I should not take much of what she is saying
now to heart and let it just slide off, but this stuff about
moving out is something she is stressing on and focused on
just like the divorce seems to be.

I was thinking about trying another test just to see how
she reacted. I was just going to move a few things out of the
house and see if she got mad again over it like she did the last
time I moved a few things.

One thing I have to my advantage is I know when my wife is
really annoyed because she will start cleaning furiously. This
is her "tell" so to speak. It never fails either. For example,
I moved that stuff out... she started cleaning, slamming stuff
around while cleaning. It's the ONLY time she is like that, when
something stresses her. Another example, remember I said I was
talking to an old friend of mine. She flew into a "cleaning rage"
over that. I say advantage because I use that in my what works
and what doesn't journal. So now I know to stay far away from
the topic of talking to old friends. She does this when something
REALLY bothers her.

I have been listing to what she has been saying. She does
not speak to me often at all, but from what little she
said earlier I clearly got that not only was she scared
of having to go through the "episodes" again, but she has
stated whether indirectly or not of feeling unloved,
unwanted, neglected etc. And I do realize that while I
was focused on healing myself and getting my own problems
straitened out over the last say 6 months that I totally
neglected her feelings. I become a total introvert so I do
know where the feelings are coming from and why. Man enough
to live up to the fact that these problems are pretty much
all me even though she is a psycho bitch right now!

All last week I was being positive, kind and happy, but
she was still highly agitated pretty much at all times
towards me no matter what I said or did. I wasn't just
doing it to get a reaction out of her either.. I was in
a good mood basically because I was so happy about how
great I feel "physically" and "mentally" right now. Even
though my emotions are shot and stress is pretty high. It's
been many years since I have felt this good.

BTW - Thanks you all for your guidance and help. I'm so happy
this forum is here! You guys are awesome.

- Scott