Hearing that from your stepdaughter must have been really painful. It is hard to imagine how you could react to something like that. It is horrible not knowing what is real and what isn't. I found out about my h's potential ea via facebook while I was on my own traveling in Kuala Lumpur. As your h has not confirmed it try not to torture yourself with it. I get angry but try to distract myself as it is not my main focus. My main focus used to be my marriage, then it was him and now it is me.
If I look deep in my heart I do think that my h is having an ea (which is intensely hurtful) but I doubt it is reciprocated as he is not really an eligible bachelor at the moment (as much as he would like to think it!). Most people don't like to start a new relationship with a lot of baggage and your h has that at the moment. Even if your h is having an affair it likely as not won't last that long. It is the hardest thing but try not to think about it, concentrate on your relationship with your h and your relationship with yourself at the moment.
