For the purposes of clarity, I will write a pro/con list of h:
1. had affair and lied 2. tried to take d from me using mental health card 2. his insane mother and sister (no boundaries) 3. he has MAJOR OCD issues (clean freak) 4. put lock box on theromstat and carried key around with him like Schniedier on "one day at a time" 5. whenever I was feeling down and wanted to talk he would roll his eyes and say, "go tell it to your therapist" 6. last fall when I was feeling really depressed (wonder why) before bomb and went to hospital (didn't stay) he only asked me ONCE casually if I was "ok" and never brought it up again 7. I have had to hide my meds because he thinks only "crazy people" take AD (he has a f'ing masters degree!) 8. told me I was a sh#tty mother 9. was never affectionate -- never. only during sex 10. rarely said I love you just to say it -- had major emotional issues 11. lied about a kid who kept coming to our apartment in nyc for a year saying he was a student -- turned out he was a pot dealer! 12. drinks AT LEAST one gin and tonic a night followed by 4 beers between 7-9pm to "go to sleep" 13. has always told "little lies" and admitted he did so just to "shut me up" 14. never stood up for me with regards to his everybody loves raymond family 15. I had to take MYSELF to the emergency room when I had a bad reactoin to a med and when I got home 8 hours later, barely asked me how I was 16. ALWAYS wierd about his mail. for the longest he had it sent to his parents, then to a p.o. box
I could go on.
Pro:
1. Funny - makes me laugh hysterically 2. good father to d -- very involved 3. paid bills on time
