To recap briefly my h and I have been together since September 2001, married for 2 years and separated since Oct 07. We had a crisis last summer, he had just recovered from his first severe bought of chronic bowel disease (that started on our honeymoon) and started a new job and has 'changed as a person and has nothing left to give'. I discovered a potential ea in May and he has since said that he no longer wants to work on the marriage and we had our first meeting on Wednesday where he has stated that he wants to sell the house.
