Number 8, still too late for DB to work.

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He just emailed me saying he had cooled off and would agree to my proposal. He asked if we could word it that the initial arrangement would just be initial and that we would revise it when I secure full-time employment and/or a certain time frame.

I told him I was fine with that and to say that it will be reviewed in six months, picking that time because that's when the divorce can be final. (Six month mandatory waiting period in CA.)

I didn't want to get all wordy in the email, because I tend to do that too much, but if the kids seem to be adjusting well to me going back to work, to them going into child care and all that is happening and if he continues to not travel as much, I'm all for it happening sooner as I know that arrangement is best for the kids. We just differ on how fast to get there.

To your question on support, not going to change that. I wouldn't use my kids to get more money, but while I'm doing the time, I'm going to get what the state says it's worth. I stayed out of the work force for 7 1/2 years, in part so that he could advance and not have the kids interfere with his job. IMO, it's the least he owes me. As the arrangement changes, so will the support and I'm fine with that. But he chose this, CA support payments are pretty cut and dried and come out of a formula plugged into a computer. It knows what it's doing and he won't be sending me this much money for long. You talk the talk, you gotta walk the walk.

He says he doesn't care about the $130k we are going to lose on the house, why should he care about the support? He's been all about he doesn't care about the money, that is until he actually has to put his money where he mouth is. I'm not going to jeopardize my finances any more than I am being forced to. This is his decision, he has to live with the repercussions.