WDID, You are getting lots of great advice here. Regardless of whatever maddening, anger provoking comments anyone here (particuarly me!) throws your way I hope you won't stop sharing your thoughts and feelings. Lying or hiding them won't be as helpful. Also, if it makes you angry or upsets you, chances are you may be getting more out of it. For example, when I suggested you might have to lose your marriage to appreciate it, that's when you were MOST insistent on wanting to stay married and make it work. You expressed healthy determination.
After three years of separation what made you and your husband get back together?
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
