Arthur has given you good advice! And I am sooooooo happy to read your solutions to your health issue. I wonder how many folks that are being diagnosed as bipolar really have your same intolerances. I'll bet the number is large.
When folks get into bad habits/routines it's hard to break the routine. You're not acting out anymore...that's a good thing.
Just pull back like you have been. And give her time like Arthur said.
Don't waste your time overanalyzing WHY she is doing this (MLC/WAW etc) just focus on improving your life and behavior...I think she will come around......especially when she sees how well you're living now. It will be contagious and attractive.
Jump to the LAST RESORT TECHNIQUE in DR.
Wishing you a wonderful weekend!
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
