Sorry I have not been around for a few days, just been busy doing stuff for me.
Listen, I agree totally with those who say its a slap in the face with what you h did to you.
I agree totally with abbysdad. My pop up timer just went off, I am now in the process of moving on for me. Now is all about me.
I have found out from someone today as a matter of fact that confirmed my thoughts as of late. That my h did have an affair with my best friend two years ago. I was fooled by both of them slapped in the face by both of them.
You will move on, just like everyone here. I have spent the last weeks breaking things up with h, my own checking account, my own credit card, doing what I want. I have not been home one night this week before 11pm. I hope this will continue thru the weekend.
I am now moving towards the divorce. I dont want to be with this person whom h has become. He absolutely refuses to stop seeing her, he wants to marry her and be a father to her three kids. For me to continue to heal, i have made the decision to let him go. For the more I try to hang on to him, the worse it is for me.
I am getting my own life, and right you ned to do the same for you.
Just tonight I said to h, when am i up for a new phone, he is like why, I am like well I want off your contract, and onto my own. He looked at me like I had 12 heads. I just calmly said, h this is what you want, me out of your life, I am just taking steps to get it done for you don't seem to want to do any of it. H says he will call tomorrow, I want a new phone and contract by the end of the month. I want this
ITs ok to be sad right now, but heal yourself you must for you D. It will all come in time, trust me.
hugs bear
Me 42-Him 40 T20yrs Married 16yrs 2/06 H- "not sure if i want to be married anymore" 6/07 H-"I'm not happy" 9/07 Admits affair & OW 12/08 I moved out 12/09 still waiting for divorce