I have been dark for the last year and I think it was the best way to be for that period of time. But things are different now as she is starting to come around. She is generally nice and only angry when she talks of the relationship. If she is reconnecting then I feel "dark" may not be appropriate based on the new dynamics. I think "dim" is probably a better approach.
However, I feel that dim requires much more skill than dark.
"When the flame is rampant the moth must totally avoid the flame to not get burnt. However, the moth's goal is not to avoid the flame forever. So if the flame softens the moth must try to get close enough to the flame to feel its warmth but not too close to get burnt."
Boy is that ever "mushy". I wouldn't have been able to write that a year ago.
