A few nights ago my son told me(when I dropped him off at XW) hes scared. We talked(mom in bed) and he told me she hasnt been around much so he doeant feel "safe". Said hes afraid she wont wake up if theres a problem, she will leave and not tell him and he feels alone when shes there. We talked...I said she loved him etc. Just tried to reassure him. Later after I left I texted and told her we needed to talk about our son. She replied he was sleeping with her....no big deal. Next day I asked why and he said he heard some noises and was scared. Told me he wanted me there. I know....insecurity caused by the disruption. He then told me at 3 am her bf knocked on the window and wanted in so she made my son go upstairs and the bf slept there. In the morning she left and he stayed (sleeping) and then left.
I feel its very inappropriate and possibly unsafe and it made me angry. She said hes fine (sexually abused as a kid, ex alcoholic, has cheated on her, lied, told everyone where she works about what they do, and more). Doesnt sound so good to me. On top of that shes now allowing her 17 year old d to have her bf spend the night. When I asked why she said "I have my reasons". To that I said "Why wont you say anything to her(as in NO)? Afraid you will look like an ass?"
Am I wrong to think this is all wrong and sets a very bad example for my son. Shes sleeping with him an the house and my son has knocked on the bedroom door to see her answer in his shirt while hes in bed.
Or is MY head screwed on wrong????
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1230087 Me 35 w 42 4 sk 12-21 our s10 m10 t14 '02 ILUBNILWY 12/24/05 pa 02/07 pa separated 1/07-3/07 asked 4 D 3/07
