I found a few mushy "to my wife on your birthday" cards that H gave me and he wrote lovly things in the card. They are so sad to see, but I remind myself that my old husband did feel that way and that he is now dead.
I have been packing up my H's belongings and putting them in the garage. It is a painful process, but important for me. I have been allowing myself to go through the things and remember what I need to remember and then pack it away, saying goodbye to it. Very healing for me.
Time to get rid of those letter, lodo.
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08