Try to stay calm, and don't forget to breath. If she sees you, be pleasant. Don't run away, but don't linger. Maybe, "I'll let you get back to the treadmill, I'll see you in a while."
As far as walking the dogs, just listen a lot, talk a little. And try not to step in anything.
just listen a lot, talk a little. And try not to step in anything.
Sage advice we can all follow Jeff.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Try to stay calm, and don't forget to breath. If she sees you, be pleasant. Don't run away, but don't linger. Maybe, "I'll let you get back to the treadmill, I'll see you in a while."
As far as walking the dogs, just listen a lot, talk a little. And try not to step in anything.
Although stepping in something makes laughter ... i hadn't seen my W and I laugh like that in some time, we just laughed and laughed
I am not going to bring up last weekend, it is done and past. I went for me, I had fun.
As far as her not being home when I expected her, that's trickier. I really don't want her to feel like I want/need her to account for every minute of her time. I wouldn't want her to do that to me, I don't want to do it to her. But, the next time such a situation arises I think I will ask a question, or say something, that gives her the opportunity to say something, if she wants to. Like, "did you have fun while you were out?", or something along those lines.
As far as asking about her day, some days she says more, and some less. When she says less, she makes it pretty clear that she doesn't want to talk about it, I don't think I should push in those cases.
I think she is really feeling a need to feel independent right now. Is it temporary, or permanent, I don't know. I think she feels that somehow she has been inadequate because she depended on me for so long. The weird thing is that somehow that turns into my fault, which I can't really explain!
Just thinking about my step-mom and the anger she had towards my dad... Maybe your wife feels if things were different early on in the marriage, and she was able to discover her "identity", she wouldn't be feeling inadequate, thus she feels like you controlled her somehow, which leads her to feel like it's your fault???? I dunno.
What's the temperature right now? I bet it's damn bloody hot.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
