If you get into that place where you want him back right now, remember, bluff or not, this man stole your child, threatened to use personal things against you to keep your child away from you FOREVER, stole your car, lied and lied, yelled and yelled, until he was backed into a corner. Then he was nice again.

I am not saying its over forever, but wow, mary, please think of the times you just went through. Its ok to mourn H and the loss of an intact family, but stop the R talks, keep it to business only and try to heal yourself right now.