I am an "old-timer" here , as well. I haven't posted in a long time, but still lurk. I have been D for 5 years and have 8 year old boy/girl twins. My ex has remarried a wonderful lady, and our R is good...mostly because he is being a good Dad and that's all that matters to me now.
Anyway, I can really relate to your situation. I began dating my bf a little less than 3 years ago ( man..time flies!). I felt the same way you do....enjoyed having someone to go out with and the companionship.....but, still craved my "me time" and my time alone with my kids. Even with younger kids, it's not easy.
I think when we have gone through the fire and come out the other side as strong and independent as we are....and that strength and independence was a long time coming....we just are not willing to give it up so easily.
In your sitation, 6 months is such a short time. I remember my bf started wanting to get serious only 4 months after we were dating...and I had to put the brakes on.....I told him that I think it takes about 2 solid years to really even "know" someone....and that I would have to be dating someone AT LEAST 2 years before anything more serious would be entertained. But, now it's been almost 3 years, and I STILL do not see myself wanting to get remarried....Anyway, back to you...6 months is WAY TOO SOON to EVEN THINK about anything more than having FUN! So, keep having FUN, and look at is as you have your cake and are eating it too! You deserve it! You have a great guy to go out and have fun with, and you have your wonderful kids to come home to....the two don't have to mesh right now....you can do both....and you should!
Fortunately, my bf hasn't pushed the issue much lately...he used to , but I pretty much let him know that my kids came first and that I wasn't up for the whole blended family thing....and then he let it go. The day may come when he wants "more", but I will cross that bridge when I come to it.
I just wanted to let you know you are not alone in how you are feeling. I felt that way after 6 months of dating, and I STILL feel that way. My twins are 8, and we have a rhythm to our house that "works". I was by myself after my ex and I separated until I started dating bf for 4 years! 4 years of raising toddler twins by myself, keeping up my own house, working full time, etc....as I said, we have a "rhythm", and I am not ready to change that rhythm right now.
Sorry to have highjacked your thread, but I hope I helped you to see that what you are feeling is totally normal!
