klm, my posts involve my thoughts....however screwed up they are.......My H and I were separated for 3 years. I wasn't with OM the whole 3 years. I know what it is like to not have him at home. H started making some changes FINALLY after 3 years, and I realize I want to keep my family and marriage, but I am unhappy and depressed in this process. I need help in this process. I am really trying and I was sharing my struggles even though I want to succeed so bad.

Sara, you know where I am at. I've said often, I think I just need time. It is true.

I think telling my thoughts here was a bad idea. I think I will just keep those inside and speak only about something when there is progress. I hear you when you say the obsessing won't help....I will try not to, I think I recently said I need to use the thoughtstopping technique. And, I'm just going to stop sharing when the thoughtstopping doesn't work.

My thoughts do seem to control me, and this book saffie recommended is helping me see that, but I JUST got the book.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Sara. I tend to reread everyone's thoughts over and over and gain more insight on a new day. Today I'm feeling more depressed than ever.