Haven't started a new one. We are still progressing some. Last week she was off limits, so we will see how this week goes. I am looking for the right time to have the "this is what sex with you really means to me" talk.
Look, I sleep naked and it bothers me that my wife never bothers to look to see me when I come to bed. I would love to have her check it out.
thanks for this too.... I did not used to do this much.... but now I check him out so much when he is "nakey" as he puts it. he will actually cover up MR. Happy and say "Thats enough honey.... he is tired!"
I love this we have come full circle..... but I do miss him touching me I must admit.
See I am scared he wont ever do it again.
The other day he was caressing my back and it felt practically orgasmic.
He used to be all over me and now that he is not "starving" it has almost stopped altogether.
Oh well... if it lasts another while I will bring it up.
Give him a little grace here. When I am totally wrung out from work, especially when things are bad and not just busy, I need to feel things are right at home. That means sex and my wife initiating. That says, "you may be a srew up at work, but you can still make your wife hot". Again, follow through etc may not be the best, but he needs the support and his ego stroked. It is a killer to be told you suck at work and then come home to be told you suck there too (add in a few creditors and it gets really bad!)
Give him time, you are meeting his needs now in the right way. Don't get discouraged, he will come back when things smooth out there or he adjusts. If you do need to discuss, do it in a really gentle, non acusatory way. "I really enjoy the sex and can't get enough of you attitude" as opposed to I am not getting what I need.
Remember, he is no longer hungry not because he is well fed, but because work is killing his appetite. Look, I can't even imagine any more what it would be like for a woman to volounteer oral...
By the way, do you know the difference between nude and naked?
Wow I am 37 and I just got that one!? See you are funny....
I will have to remember that one... yeah aroung here we say "NAKEY."
You know my H is leaving in 2 weeks * To work* and I am actually scared he will go down hill and start with his old demons again. IE, Loose women Drugs Drinking alot Feeling depressed Having unreal expectatins of me Dr. Jeckyl , MR. Hyde * ( which I firmly believe half of them * ( outbursts) were drug enduced) But I need to focus on the fact that we have really come so far and not on the what ifs.....
UGH~ If only life were easy? Bleh... Taking deep cleansing breaths to let this go... Thanks for the posts ~NTE. ~Ali
For how long is going to be gone? What are the possibilities of showing up during the trip? Not to check up, but as a nice surprise. I don't know if you have kids, work or financial issues, but it can make the time apart much better. Sometimes I have to travel up to two weeks at a shot. Pre kids, I used to take the wife. We still have fun talking about those trips even though they were generally to a real hell hole of a town.
I have 5 kids... 4 are at home..... I am "remarried" * ( I hate that term). 2 are from my First M. And yeah he does usually buy me a plane ticket to go see him. I dunno just old feelings coming up. Yeah we have had lots of fun too. I went to New Orleans/ Mardi Gras with him after Katrina... boy did we have fun. I even got some beads. OOPs..
And we even tired to ride a bull at a country Saloon. But see I can still remember he had a phone number on his visor of his truck and it was a Womans... and I knew I had seen it several times on our cell phone bill. PRE Trip~ So the first day there while he took a nap in our % star suite. I weeped in the bathroom.never Mentioned it the whole trip.
You know I love him so much NTE~ but sometimes it is hard when I look back it still hurts.....
He later tried to deny it but he had an EA with her for about 6 weeks. while he was working in New Orleans... Ooh, I am crying now.... thought I was over all that... YUCK!
OOPs..