~SB....

I would print out S&A long post to you and get the books he recommends.
The advice he gave you is priceless... absolutely priceless and so on the money it is scary.

I would work on all the changes he said one at a time.
Dont think about working on them work on them.
The change in your R will be amazing and you will be a much happier Man.

And If your lucky the side effect will be ~ your sex life will get better too.
But one thing at a time and I do think working on you is far more important now that I have read thru your thread.

Most people here would give anything to get advice like that and someone telling you like it is.

I myself listened to WISE posters like Strong and Alive and my Life is so much better now. * ( Thanks Santhony, COG, OT, AMYC ,and may others here who blessed me with their time and effort and support)

When you work on you and stop living like you are believe me it will be brilliant. But it starts with you... these awesome people can post til their blue in the face but it ultimately starts with you.
You can do this... so get started. Little by little every day you can reach your Goals.... ;\) I promise, but it will take a lot of blood , sweat and tears on your part. Some major growth.
Anything is possible... let this be the last day you stop blaming her and start living.
All my best to you,
~Ali