I don't want to hijack Jeff's thread. Did your wife TELL YOU she wanted to walk the dogs tonight? Does she want to do it, or does she want to do it with you? If none of the above...don't be home when she gets home from the gym...take the dogs for a LONG walk.
For the gym, don't go out of your way to find her, but if you walk past her, I'd probably smile and wave, and keep on walking.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
BTW W just texted me as reply to "this text wasn't meant for me was it".. I will just pretend phone is turned off and did not see said text.. BTW did anyone notice a lunar eclipse the other night?
I got home from work, let the dogs out, fed them and the cats.. after that i got ready to goto the gym. I went to yoga, slightly outnumbered 18-2 (women to men ratio LOL)... such a good stress reliever... then it donned on me.. She asked me for a divorce( 1 month now), give her what she wants! i get the space part now..!!
i finished up yoga... walked out and i saw her.. i was chatting with some girls from the class.. just being friendly. She didn't see me.. i kept on walking... straight to the locker room.. and then out the door to my friends place.. i had to go pick up a cheque for my run Sunday.
i get home , and just letting the dogs out again to do their business.. and W shows up... she asks.. we going for a walk?
I answer sure.. but can i have a quick bite first.. so i do..
then we go, small talk .. were you at the gym? .. yep..
on the walk, she was talking about a company that is supposed to fix a window in our house, and they keep screwing up... well she called me her husband in this one sentence.. i NEVER expected that... she also said something like "they call you because your the man, not your wife",,, so she also called herself my wife...
WTF???
she asked what i was doing again friday... i repeated it again, calmly..
we finished the walk, i had a bath..she is sitting on the other couch in THIS room RIGHT NOW... WTF???
i picked up the mail, more documents with her maiden name.. didn't let it bother me in the slightest...
the big D papers might be in one of those envelopes.. i don't know.. she was waiting for the long form marriage cert to file.. so might get served soon..
just going to continue good positive behaviors regardless..
That she's using the terms "husband" and "wife" is a very good sign. Don't worry about her filing, serving you papers, etc. I went through all that, and then things started to turn. This is a LONG process, you have plenty of time. You're even separated yet!
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
That she's using the terms "husband" and "wife" is a very good sign. Don't worry about her filing, serving you papers, etc. I went through all that, and then things started to turn. This is a LONG process, you have plenty of time. You're even separated yet!
Today was 1 month since she dropped the bomb on me...
here's how my day went..
got up 8 AM went and got my front tooth fixed(was chipped)..now i can smile without being self concious..
then i went for a massage... awww that was great!!!! the massage lady and i spoke a little about my situation, she said "wow you are one of a kind" regarding my positivity.. even said wow you still wear your wedding ring.
next, went to eat something healthy..
then went to my wife's shop for a pedicure and a facial.. sooooo relaxing... my wife got me the 30% discount. she came after i was all done and said how was it... i said fine..
it was a challenge walking into that shop for the 1st time since.. some of the girls there gave me looks like are u ok.. i just continued to smile and chat with the lady that was doing my services.. i made her laugh the whole time we were in there(until the facial, cant talk much then)..
then i left, didnt say anything to the W.. just left.. came home fed the dogs and cats.. and now i am here posting..
tonight i am going to play squash for the 1st time ever with SIL BF.. then we might wall climb and then go for wings..
That she's using the terms "husband" and "wife" is a very good sign. Don't worry about her filing, serving you papers, etc. I went through all that, and then things started to turn. This is a LONG process, you have plenty of time. You're even separated yet!
we are seperated tho... we have been sleeping apart for 1 month...
why is it a good sign Jon?( H and W)??
what about when the house goes on the market sunday?
