He WILL be able to look at his own stuff, but it may take you accepting responsibility FIRST for your stuff. Once you've done that and made the changes in you that you need to do, he'll likely be motivated to be the husband he should be.
I know...it's hard. In reality, I could blame my h for about 75% of our marriage problems. But, I can't tell him that or do anything about that. The only thing I can do is fess up and apologize for my 25%. And make that changes I need to make sure that 25% gets fixed.
Beleive me, when he starts going off about what I need to work on and says NOTHING about his contribution I find it hard to keep my mouth shut. I want to shout, "Are you kidding me? Have you looked in the mirror?!!" But, that would get me nowhere except a boot in my arse.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
