I have followed your posts since you came on and I have been really rooting for you. I just needed to weigh in here. Running and klm are right. Men pursue and conquer. What has been conquered should stay conquered. Hence, wonderful attention before the goal line (marriage, live in or sex) has been accomplished, less after said goal has been reached. This attitude, trait, characteristic is profoundly annoying to women, but the natural attitude of a man. Does not make it right, but your OM is NO DIFFERENT!
It is impossible emotionally, practically for a man to sustain the courting period throughout marriage, other things get in the way, kids etc, just living together. A MATURE and loving man will continue to devote himself to pursuing you, but not at the same pace. Please judge your husband by that standard, and not by the guy who is just trying to cross the line.
