>>WDID - He adored you and showed you off, but you are someone else's wife. Do you think he would do this if you were HIS wife? NO.<<

Sheesh oh peetie guys ALWAYS adore and give compliments to women they aren't married to (it's a little biological thing known as "the chase"). That drivel isn't meant to be taken seriously. Once you are caught it's no longer so exciting. OM just wants to win the chase. Once he actually had you (married or just living with you) he'd eventually get bored. The compliments slow down....

Puppy, I don't know if 6-12 months of "best effort" is going to work. I think WDIDe may need to lose her M and family before she feels it's value and can objectively decide if she wants to make it work. Just "trying" often doesn't work. Doing it because you really do want it, in spite of all it's negatives and positives. That's where you mentally need to be to make it work. Otherwise it's too easy to flip flop.

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.