It just seems like life could be a lot simpler if she could just say "I want you to be in charge. Please take over."
Also, for s naturally strong, dominant person, think about how hard this would be to say to anyone, even your spouse. It goes against your natural grain. You might even be ashamed of this desire and fight against it.
It quite literally took my wife YEARS to finally give me a clue as to what she had been dreaming I would just naturally do on my own. She was almost a little resentful that she had to tell me it out loud -- and even then, she only gave me a hint. I had to take that hint and put the remainder of the puzzle together on my own. For a strong-willed, naturally dominant, feminist woman, it's an extremely difficult desire/dream to admit, even to herself.
But I finally 'got it' and will hopefully never call my marriage sex-starved again.
-- B.
Me 50, W 45, M for 26 yrs S25, D23, S13, S10 20+ year SSM; recovery began Oct 2007
