No, apathy is a dangerous cycle to get into and I think very difficult to get out of. I think it is a definite form of self protection, my h used/ uses it against me because I think he felt he couldn't win and it was also a good excuse for him to leave a complicated situation that he wasn't prepared to even start to work on.
Jeff you work on yours everyday and you're still hanging in there. I admire you hugely for that.
