I think it's a natural reaction to reach out to stop someone from falling. I don't really think she had time to think it out. It think the fact that she went on a walk with you is a good sign.
GIVE HER SPACE!!
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
I think it's a natural reaction to reach out to stop someone from falling. I don't really think she had time to think it out. It think the fact that she went on a walk with you is a good sign.
GIVE HER SPACE!!
Ok... and another thing we swapped dog leashes and i know it sounds sad, but our hands touched for the first time in a month.. it was nice.. i kept eye contact with her everytime she'd speak (thats why i walked in dog poop), she wouldn't always look ME in the eyes... then while i was taking our the garbage (garbage day today)..and cleaning the litter(s).. she yelled "do u want something to eat?" .. i said sure.. then we actually ate in the same room..
there was a peaceful feel to "us" ... but i know she is pissed at me..
If you actually keep following through on all of this....it is going to make her mad, before it makes her happy! Because she will be wondering why you couldn't listen before.
Do the cats eat all their food? If she can see they are fed, she doens't need a not.
Less contact, not more.
Nope they eat all their food... tomorrow i am off, so they'll get fed when I get up (W works at 9, but i will be up.. will make sure i am downstairs first to feed animals)
The one thing she did say to one of her friends a few weeks back " he's a really good guy, but not for me, too many vices"
i have turned those "vices" into exercize, opening up about my feelings to friends, being honest every single day.
why would she ask what i am upto the next few days? She wants out, she shouldn't care? Then to tell me what she is upto.. it's tough with 4 pets..(2 dogs need to be watched)... but still..
If you actually keep following through on all of this....it is going to make her mad, before it makes her happy! Because she will be wondering why you couldn't listen before.
Ok, then I can see the cat note. Our cat nibbles, so there is either food in the dish, or there needs to be.
No one can say why she is asking about what you are doing. Trying to figure it out will only hurt your head. Answer the question, as far as you want to (don't lie), and don't worry about it. It could be good or bad, I could make up a story either way. It doesn't matter.
If you actually keep following through on all of this....it is going to make her mad, before it makes her happy! Because she will be wondering why you couldn't listen before.
Sorry Jeff ...what is the clue ? clueless me..
She is going to get angry, even if you are doing everything right. Especially if you are doing everything right!
