Ok so here is what I am up to. I am getting along so well with My Husband it is actually scaring me.
Truth be told I never ever thought this possible. We have been back to ML everyday.
I have a question for the Men ( and Women too ) if you know the answer. I have been now also reading... The Proper Feeding of Marriage. It seems to reiterate all of what MWD~ believes in and yet she gives examples... IE~ Do treat your H with love and respect everyday and he will do the same. Believe it. Fabulous book. Thumbs up! * Not a direct quote just something like that.
So I am doing all I can loving unconditionally, giving and I massage him every nite cause he is so tired from work. We ML every nite b/c I initiate. Total 180 from last year!
MY ? is this.... ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~* MY H does not hardly touch me anymore he seems to tired for anything... he is letting me do all the work. **** I know I can just simply ask him but I dont want to it will cause an explosion of words************ Do I stop trying so hard for more or do I keep showing him I want him? Will I be boosting his ego ,or just annoying him? ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~*
MY H is VERY stressed form work.... and this is his excuse for not wanting quickies lately .... Oral sex * ( me on him ) .
We make love once and that is enough for him... He honestly was just complaining earlier this year that I was not sexual enough. and now sometimes I have to beg to give him oral sex. Not on my hands and knees ( no pun intended) but I do have to ask sometime , more than once.
So I am sure I sound like a mad Woman... but this shocks me. And I Know 100% w/o a doubt he is not having an affair. WE are getting along great and he is always accountable. this is a first in our Marriage since the first Year.
So honestly I have no complaints... he also talks to me now more than ever. He will even call me from work to tell me how his day is going. I feel like I am dreaming,, really.
That is a first too... he used to call just to b*tch.
I am sure my dilema sounds like Apple Pie compared to some but I feel like I need another POV besides my own.
Do I keep doing what I am doing?
... seeing as I feel like I am * FINALLY* at the top of the hill and do not want to have to walk back down, or do I back off some?
* This morning for instance he grabbed his p*nis thru his boxers , Like saying you want some? and HE smiled.
And then I said "YEAH!" and smiled back. Then he just smiled and said " Honey I am tired I have to go to work." Or is this payback for years of me being the LD one?
* Not a direct quote just something like that.
