Did you know my H copped a feel of my bottom in April one night when he was hugging me? That was a little step into romance for him and mee (although it's proving to be a struggle to get any further!). It must be really hard for them to start moving back, which is one reason why I think it takes so long and why they need reassurance.
I don't remember that at all! How funny! I wonder how we can help them feel more comfortable moving forward from that? I was trying for alcohol, but obviously that just brought out the tears in me. Whoops!
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I can totally understand about not wanting to get hurt again. How do you feel about taking the risk?
I have a quote that I read alot, "I need to accept the risk of vulnerability. If H does do something negative or hurtful when I open up and let myself care again, I won't like it, but I will survive. I need to trust myself to be able to handle whatever H may do concerning this relationship."
The scariest part that I have is the idea of him getting over and moving on from The Horse. I still want him to open up to me more, b/c I find that I don't know what to trust in him anymore.
How do you trust someone who is just as confused about himself?
H & I, both 32, together since 18. *M 7/03, A since 9/06. Bomb 7/07, H ended it w/ OW 9/08 * Agreed to D 6/09...very hard *D 8/10 * At peace, have become great friends w/ X-H and his new GF
