I am a WAW, but do I really want to be?

[cz946]

Hi Lost3031, Your situation sounds alot like mine, except I am the H. My wife's reason for walking away sounds very similar, except I am not aware of her having a male friend, but tend to think there may be one. Separated 5/6/08.

The only difference is that I am willing to do anything to save my marriage, but she keeps saying its to late. I feel really bad that I didn't meet her emotinal needs. I have learned alot over the past several months, through books, online, and couseling. If I would have worked as hard for the last 12 years as I have in the past 3 months, I would never have found this site.

She is not willing to work on the marriage at all. She says she is moving on. What did your H do to make you have second thoughts. What could he do to win you back. Do you have any advise for me?

As far as your H, saying he doesn't have to fight for you. I disagree with that. His thinking is exactly why our m's are in this situation. If I was you, I would tell your H is actions will determine if you want to be with him or not, and by him not willing to do anything or change may lead you to a decision he doesn't want. Let him know that you are truly willing to give it one more chance, but be honest with him and yourself.

Good Luck, I really hope everything works out for the best!