I'm glad you're a success and I'm glad you're here!
Others....
You may not be able to do this in the manner that puppy did....it isn't for the faint of heart. It fits into the AFTER THE LAST RESORT technique in DR. So onesizefitsall advice doesn't work. But...there IS a place for his method.
peace and all good, sg
I should really make an important distinction here: "No-contact/transparency" is really intended for when the wayward spouse AGREES that they need to end it with OM/OW, and to come back to their marriage and to work on it, and understands that they have to help their betrayed spouse rebuild trust. Giving these to them as some sort of "list of demands", when you first find out and the bomb drops, is NOT recommended (although you can certainly tick off the items if your wayward spouse ASKS you what it would take).
It needs to be a TEAM EFFORT between both spouses, not something that is imposed upon the wayward spouse by their betrayed spouse.
