I think you have handled all of this very well. Here's is what stikes me, and I think it is good. Since you are not married, in his mind he really doesn't "owe" you anything. And yet, it seems to me that he has given quite a bit, all things considered. I think there is a chance something could build from this. It's still going to be an uphill battle, and it is going to take a lot of time. Distance isn't going to help at all, since even if he wants to come closer to you emotionally, it will be hard. But now that you have your "foot in the door", you'll be able to make more regular email, text, or phone contact. Not too much, but some. And slowly, you'll be able to see where things are going. You will learn more about him, and more about yourself.
