It's no consolation, and does nothing to take your hurt away, but know that those very same words you wrote have been written by hundreds or thousands of people on this sight alone.
There is no explanation for someone doing something as heinous as destroying a family. And there's no excuse for either the spouse who leaves or the incredibly weak person who welcomes them in.
But what can we do?
We are made of different stuff I suppose.
We come from a time or culture where marriage is a lifetime together. A commitment through thick and thin, good times and bad times, with there never being an option out. We are people who take commitment seriously and value the integrity of our word. And when our children come, we place their well being far above any other pursuit in our life.
Others, like your husband and my ex-wife, do not have that inside of them. At some point they have decided that their personal happiness was more important than a promise. That the need for a new rush was more valuable than a whole and healthy family.
There simply is no explanation.
The fact that we are essentially powerless to change it is heartbreaking.
You will surive though. And there is much life still to be lived, savored, and enjoyed. I live my life each day with expectation and anticipation. And I hope each day that the day will come that my ex-wife has that moment of clarity where she realizes what she did and what she lost.
You will surivive.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
