Should I break the silence?

[BeingMe]

Sorry about the sitch you find yourself in ... although, it sounds like you have been in it for the last 25 years, only you didn't know it (or, didn't admit it).

formal but friendly arrangement for 25 of them-he had affairs I had denial-

Look, to me, it seems your H has been playing this game for a long time. He is a serial cheater, IMHO. If you got back together, how do you know it won't continue? It seems like he has a psychological problem if he can cheat on his W for 25 years! Counselling may help him, and I wouldn't take him back unless he seeks help.

My advice ... serve him with D papers, getting as much of the assets as you can, plus alimony (you have been married for a long time, and you are probably entitled to it, plus to any pensions he may have, etc.). See a lawyer, check what your rights are, and take control of your own life, and not live it waiting for your H to decide what he wants.

Take care.