Here goes..

[redsawks44]

Hi Jon,

So we walked again tonight for about an hour and a half.. was good.. and this time after the walk when i thanked her she clearly said "thank you it was good"...

i almost fell going from the sidewalk to the street, she went to catch me...

we chatted alot about general stuff, how was your day etc etc..

i stepped in my dog's poop, we laughed our heads off..

then we talked about the note from the cats i left this morning :
it said "dear Mama, we ated , luv the kats"

she said it made her laugh this morning.

The she started asking me what i was doing friday..i was supposed to goto my cousins (we both were)..i said no my plans have changed. She told me what she was doing.. (why would she tell me???)

Then she told me what she was doing sat and sunday and she asked what i was doing..

i just stayed happy.. i told her i would be making our lunches for next week..

and maybe dinner sunday night, she still wants the realtor over on Sunday

thoughts??

She just made me something to eat.. i wiol thank her again and goto bed..

tomorrow she says she will goto the gym after her work, she knows i am doing yoga at that time tomorrow....

goodnight all

Thoughts?

[redsawks44]

Hi Jon,

So we walked again tonight for about an hour and a half.. was good.. and this time after the walk when i thanked her she clearly said "thank you it was good"...

i almost fell going from the sidewalk to the street, she went to catch me...

we chatted alot about general stuff, how was your day etc etc..

i stepped in my dog's poop, we laughed our heads off..

then we talked about the note from the cats i left this morning :
it said "dear Mama, we ated , luv the kats"

she said it made her laugh this morning.

The she started asking me what i was doing friday..i was supposed to goto my cousins (we both were)..i said no my plans have changed. She told me what she was doing.. (why would she tell me???)

Then she told me what she was doing sat and sunday and she asked what i was doing..

i just stayed happy.. i told her i would be making our lunches for next week..

and maybe dinner sunday night, she still wants the realtor over on Sunday

thoughts??

She just made me something to eat.. i wiol thank her again and goto bed..

tomorrow she says she will goto the gym after her work, she knows i am doing yoga at that time tomorrow....

goodnight all

Sorry , positive night you think?

[Virtually_Handsome]

It sounds good. But one night is one night. She wants to see a lot more of it. It's a long haul, but you are catching on!

[redsawks44]

It sounds good. But one night is one night. She wants to see a lot more of it. It's a long haul, but you are catching on!

why do you supposed she asks what my plans are? we laughed harder last night than i can ever remember.. it felt good to laugh together.

[redsawks44]

so just had something backfire on me... please give me suggestions.. i wrote a note this morning saying " Mama us kats have eaten"

second note said " Dogs have eaten too, luv the kats"

945 this morning we spoke, and i said the dogs havent eaten , did you read the note from the cats? she said i am awful to wait until now to let her know the dogs hadn't really eaten..

now i feel awful thoughts on what i should say??

Just apologize?

[redsawks44]

i called to apologize...

[redsawks44]

and now the mind starts to think.. did i do the right thing? please help remind me..

Sent an email too:

(bad thing?)
T,
Are u into walking the boys? I owe them a long walk after the note that Kats left this morning
Let me know if you want me to wait for you. Won’t be home until after 10 probably.
I should be home around 615ish to feed them/love them/cuddle them/eed them

Thanks,
D

[ms ladybug]

I think I'd drop the whole kats notes. It was funny once, but not everyday. Now she seems to be getting annoyed.

Let her initiate contact with you. You're not giving her space. She cant miss you if you're always around. No more emails, no more walks unless it's HER idea. Don't feed the cats, don't walk the dogs. You need to GET BUSY. You need to fade out for a bit.

[ms ladybug]

Ooops. I just noticed that you're still living together. OK. It's OK to feed the cats and walk the dogs, just don't wait for her to go with you. Do it on your own, don't even invite her. She'll ask to go with you if she wants to.

[Virtually_Handsome]

Ms. Bug has it right. You are coming really close to suffocating her. Back off, way off. You can't fix this in a day, or a week. Positive interations are good, but they are better when they start with her. The more you push, the more she will run.