J, yeah, the shoe store was actually a branch of this other organization called the Shoe Archive, which rents vintage shoes to movie costume designers?? Accordions are awesome! I just have a little baby one, like for kids.
The funny thing is that I am OK emotionally with the extremely slow pace of everything, because I am more accustomed now to having no contact than having contact. It is more intellectually that I wonder if I should be doing something different. I have no idea if he wants to see me again. His face lit up during dinner when I said I'd be in new york and he asked, "when???" And then at the end of that night when I said "It would be nice to see you again sometime" he just said, "yeah, maybe sometime", totally vague and non committal. So, completely conflicting messages. We had a great but short conversation after his show, which I think was probably very reassuring to him that I am not going to push any drama in his face. My feeling is that even if he is interested in seeing me again, he probably needs time to process what's happened in the past two weeks, and he might not be ready to come out of his cave before I leave NYC for this visit. That is OK! i guess!
Normally to nurture a friendship while visiting a city where I didn't live I would make myself very available and try to plan when I would see all my friends to maximize the hangout time. But I think that would be too pursuing! Sometimes it is like the "friendship" rules apply, other times it is like the "just started maybe dating" rules apply...???
thank you so much for your ideas, julia!! ((((JULIA)))) LOVE, T
