OK This is the sitch.Married 28 years- formal but friendly arrangement for 25 of them-he had affairs I had denial-Then last May bomb " I cant move back to home town with you "( I was about to retire) Said he felt locked in the marriage it wasnt a mature relationship and we should both get a life.So I moved on my own,fell apart, but prepared for divorce. There had been OW but he had left her in January as she was pressuring him. He is still emotionally involved.We did some counselling around Christmas and he said I had changed could we delay final Divorce absolute.We then saw each other every other week and seemed to be getting closer but he still kept saying" I dont know what will happen all the cards are in the air"Recently OW approached him and he weakened (booked holiday with her but then cancelled it " It wouldnt be right")Noticed him pulling away-afraid I panicked last time I saw him 5 weeks ago and said I must know one way or another .He said he loved me but was frightened and didnt know if we could be together as man and wife. He asked for another month. Since then apart from a casual and friendly birthday text 3 weeks ago I have heard nothing. I usually contact him after 5 or 6 days or he does. This silence is weird and unusual. What is he thinking? Ive been expecting the final divorce paper but he obviously hasnt sent it off. Nor can I.He has always said I dont want divorce ( wanted it when bomb went off last may!) Weve been separated a year. Im scared he is slipping away- find it hard to let him go and GAL-I feel so sorry for his confusion and cant seem to move on.Also scared he is with OW as she lives in his town. Feel I want to confront him and end all this but cant. Should I contact him? How long should I wait? Settlement is an issue as I retire in a month and havent enough to live on- he is still working 4 years younger than me.This is a long and rambling post- if you have read this far thank you and any advice would be great- I feel I cant think clearly any more!
