she goes to the pool with them, she has then signed up for day activities, D9 has golf practice every monday, D6 and D6 have a cheerleading camp (age appropriate) S5 was signed up for something, and as soon as I get home, she is gone, so from 5pm till the next morning she can do what she wants.
Ok, now she needs a group of women or one woman that she meets with, with kids. Picture the kids playing while the women talk and redirect the kids when needed while watching the other moms and how they handle things. This helps. You have done everything possible to give her a "break" and have given her more than most actually. Now, it seems to me that she needs to do some things on her own to help her with the feeling of frustration that she has. Just trying to think of what she could do to lessen this feeling she has since she repeats it so often. NOt that you would be able to do anything about it, but SHE could.
whatdidido: it seems to me that she needs to do some things on her own to help her with the feeling of frustration that she has.
she has, she left me and the kids and found her self OM, she has all weekend to herself, and doesn't have to report back to work until Monday morning. Oh thats right, I took off work Monday so she could have another day off to herself ---- just venting
M45 W41 M10 3/4 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
I understand the venting. (((((hugs)))))) I guess I'm saying what you already know. There are things she could be doing to help the situation, but instead she is choosing to leave the marriage as her solution. Frustrating......just feels like there should be something to stop her.....her reasoning for leaving is absurd.
Frustrating......just feels like there should be something to stop her.....her reasoning for leaving is absurd.
Isn't it always????? There are 1000 more productive things you can do then leave a marriage, but they choose the destructive path instead. Totally frustrating!!! Karen
understatement, I have so many emotions, I want her back, I want her to stay away, I want to forgive her, I will never forgive her, I so confused, some days I feel like my world is crashing in and the next I'm happy and ready to move on with my life. I'm sad, I'm mad, I'm happy, I'm confused, I'm sorry for her, and on and on and on and on.
We all have a long haul ahead of us, good or bad it's the path we choose in life that's important.
M45 W41 M10 3/4 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
understatement, I have so many emotions, I want her back, I want her to stay away, I want to forgive her, I will never forgive her, I so confused, some days I feel like my world is crashing in and the next I'm happy and ready to move on with my life. I'm sad, I'm mad, I'm happy, I'm confused, I'm sorry for her, and on and on and on and on.
You totally put into words how I feel the past 7 months or so! One of my friends has said how every minute I am changing my mind about H and my marriage or non-marriage or whatever you want to call it. I wish I could be less all over the map; don't know how to do that though!!! Let me know if you figure it out!!! Karen
hey there, hope today finds you in better spirits. It's amazing how many emotions the crazed MLC's make us feel, the same amount of concern and the same wish you could smack them upside the head and hope they start thinking right. When you say 'report to work' do you mean her coming over to take care of the kids?
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
as soon as I get home, she is gone, so from 5pm till the next morning she can do what she wants.
My H leaves as soon as I get home from work and doesn't return until the next evening. And he basically has the weekends to himself as well. I often wonder what he does with his time.
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understatement, I have so many emotions, I want her back, I want her to stay away, I want to forgive her, I will never forgive her, I so confused, some days I feel like my world is crashing in and the next I'm happy and ready to move on with my life. I'm sad, I'm mad, I'm happy, I'm confused, I'm sorry for her, and on and on and on and on.
Replace the 'she' with 'he' and you pegged my thoughts all day long.
Frustrating......just feels like there should be something to stop her.....her reasoning for leaving is absurd.
Karen