Hello everyone. I have been staying away from here for a bit because, well...sometime you need a break from everyones stories. I have been doing some GAL things....scrapbooking classes, lunch with co-workers, etc etc. My town is expected to have "moderate" flooding on Monday. I should go down to the river and see how it really looks. We get flooding around here frequently.
I have been avoiding H as much as possible. His mother called me the other night to tell me that FIL is in the hospital and BIL got in a fight and was hit with a baseball bat. She couldn't get ahold of my H. So I did call him and just told him that information. He called me yesterday and was totally stressed out over the car insurance. If you recall, I took care of that last week and tried to talk to him about it but he just hung up on me. Somehow the conversation got into how the insurance man knows that H cheated and refuses to leave the house. H goes on and on about how I need to stop telling people because it is personal and it can ruin his reputation. I tell him that he is the one who ruined his own reputation when he decided to commit adultry. That I want everyone in town to know that this divorce is not my fault at all. Also that I thought he would want people to know that he is in love. I know it made him mad. Oh well.
H used my body wash the other day. I wrote in red marker "Go Buy your own!"
I realized the other day that H isn't taking advantage of me as much as he is taking advatage of the law and the whole situation. I speak with the lawyer to go over the settlement tomorrow.
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
You are getting stronger all the time. The GAL stuff sounds great. The less I see of my STXW the better I feel. I feel that this whole thing is about improving ourselves and moving on. It would really creep me out if my W used my soap. Knowing that she is with the OM. I don't want her to touch me much less my soap.
Keep up the GAL. I am making new friends and getting into new things all the time.
Hey girl. You are doing so well. I love that you wrote him that 'love' note about the body wash. H uses my hair gel sometimes. Ew!! lol
You are doing so well. Don't let H's anger get to you. Let it wash off of you, and let it go. Honestly, the path you are walking is the ONLY path in which H would come back. Sadly, he will probably be a day late and many dollars short.
You are being strong and standing up for yourself. Good job.
You are being strong and standing up for yourself. Good job.
Yep!!! I hope you won't get too close to the flooding--sounds scary to me! I guess I should be happy I live hours from water (although I miss the beach sometimes)!
I've been thinking of you and praying for you! I know you will be better than ok. Weird that I think all of us here will go on to have great, healthy Rs and our WAS will still be messing up and unhappy. Karen
Did you see the footage of the Arch steps? Amazing! We are close to both rivers (in the county), but we are on a huge hill, so we see it, but aren't affected by it.
(((Sara))) good to see you so strong and doing so many GAL activities. I lauged when I read your bodywash note, thats funny.
Too bad your H won't get it until you are already gone. Keep up the PMA.
Corey
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
I am back from the lawyer's. Tears and streaming down my face. I was strong in the office. If I can get H to come into her office on Thursday of next week and sign the papers, I can be divorced on Friday. Can you believe that? In one week I could be divorced. It all depends on if H will agree to the settlement. I am not sure. It says that I will pay off his car loan and give him $1000 and he has so many days to get out of the house and take all of his stuff. I am not sure if $1000 will be enough money to make him leave.
I think I need some time to think about all of this....
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
Karen