And yes, H4U, the "control" this is classic affair script gaslighting deflection bullchit.
Yes, classic!!! My H told me I was being controlling when I wanted to decide where I am going to live after our divorce! He kept telling me where I was going to live! I think if you are making decisions that affect your life that is not controlling, and how I think of it anyway. (I actually think my H is the controlling one so funny he calls me that but I guess they want to follow their script!) Karen
Karen