This seems like a control tactic that she's going to see through since it's one of her (and her C) big issues with me. Lynn
I think so too. You have to do what you feel is right, & you will get stronger as time goes on which will help. I know it is tough to do sometimes but following Puppy's advice is usually very sound--otherwise in a few months you'll be like me and others--wish I would have followed it sooner!!! :)Karen
Thanks, Karen.
Lynn, you can certainly use your own words, but it's critical for you not to follow your own instincts to go all "melty man" or "needy/grabby" right now. That's a HUGE mistake, and yet it feels SO right to the betrayed spouse.
I cannot emphasize this enough. I did it a few times, and it ALWAYS was counterproductive.
